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每個人生活在這個世界上也許都會有一段刻骨銘心的愛情，只不過可能是人與人之間愛的方式有所不同，其實愛情出現的時候，也許本來就是一部憂傷的童話，它有時候的遙遠，有時候真實，但有時候是那麼的不可觸摸，也許唯有這些才成就起了愛情的神聖。

  試過嗎，當你放棄一個很愛你的人的時候，你並不痛苦。當你放棄一個你很愛的人的時候，那才痛苦。如果你愛上一個不愛你的人，那是更痛苦。如果要是有緣份，那麼時間、空間都不算是什麼，但是要是無緣呢，就算是相聚可能也是無法會意的。其實人生在世很多事都不必太在意，更不要去強求，就讓一切隨緣不是更好嗎。

　逃避，有時候不一定躲得過。而面對，不一定是最難過的。孤獨有時候不一定不快樂，而得到了呢，也許有時候不一定能長久.失去的人不一定不會再擁有，也許有的時候可能因為某個理由而傷心難過.但是要記住，你一定能找個理由讓自己快樂起
來，這才是最重要的。

　戀愛無非是想要快樂，兩個人如果不能快樂，不如讓一個人快樂，兩個人都痛苦，倒不如成全一個人快樂。愛，就是一種感受，即使痛苦也會覺得幸福.愛，也是一種體會，即使心碎也會覺得甜蜜。愛，得是一種經歷，即使破碎也會覺得美麗。

　相信命運嗎，有些失去是註定的，有些緣分是永遠不會有結果的，也許是就是傳說中的有緣無分。愛一個人不一定就能擁有，只想讓他幸福快樂，不是嗎，可是，有時就是無法抹去你在我心中的點點滴滴。。。愛一個人並不孤單，想念一個人才真的是孤單。靜靜的想念，孤獨的享受，也許真正的去想一個你愛的人才能體會的到。

  喜歡一個人，如果失去了，就像丟掉自己心愛的物品.雖然有遺憾，但是心中不會有多痛。可是愛一個人，如果失去了，就會留下一個傷口,永遠都會隱隱的作痛。。。 不要因為自己的一時寂寞，而去接愛一段不合適你的愛，也不要因為一段不合適你的愛，而去寂寞一生。

  有一種思念叫做沉默，在我們的內心深處，曾經的那一份情感，從此不會再提起。。。或許，只有在難得最遠的時候，才能把曾經走過的那段日子看得最真切、最清楚！

I’m back to here again I think is not a good sign to be here , am here most of the time write about my unhappiness thoughts. Well, seems like another cloudy weather for today just like my mood now, it’s gonna be a heavy rain after all. This morning I have gone thru somebody blogs and found out this lady was well written and most of all she write out the facts that ppl around us and included ourself problems that we facing. Well, everyone have their own problems one way or another is just how we face it and handle it. Okay here is it.. The blogs that I’ve gone thru it said out my doubts. It said To Love or To Be Loved .. She said out her fren experiential and here she said: She has her point and it is substantiated by her experiences with previous beaus. When you love and care too much for that person and that other party doesn’t reciprocate with equal or more effort, you’ll find yourself feeling tired eventually due to uncertainty, insecurity or frustration, maybe even combination of all 3. On the other hand, when the other person loves you more, you know that person will always be there for you. And that’s a comfortable feeling to have, especially in a girl. It doesn’t mean that you can take the person and his/her efforts for granted, but it’s another reason for you to appreciate that person more. I fully agreed what she said eventually myself also gone thru that experienced before L . I’m getting very sick about love, it drive me crazy and hurting me deeper and deeper each time. Many ppl telling they can love unconditionally and will love that person even if that person does not reciprocate. Can that really happen? Can it last? What do you think? For me it’d be hurt, suffering and torture as I’ve gone thru that before.What is more important , to love or to be loved?? Personally I believe both are equally important. To have reciprocating love is… amazing. But if you love someone, or someone loves you without it being returned, it really, really hurts. I think that the most important thing is that you can love and acknowledge love. I have to say To love someone is nothing, to be loved by someone is something, but to be loved by the one you love is everything. I’d prefer to believe that we have sufficient capacity to combine two in such a manner that we may truly feel love.

The greatest regrets in our lives are the risks we did not take. If you think something will make you happy, go for it. Remember that you pass this way only once!

It has been long time i never update my blog.. Time flies real fast and it almost going to end 2007 soon.Seem like i’ve done nothing in 2007 just slip the times away. I think am getting older and no more energy for ANYTHING or exciting out door activity hehe maybe is time for me to commit and settle down??..or maybe this an excuses for being lazy?? haha.. Anyway, I need a long holidays!! Wanna go somewhere else before ended 2007 .. reflect back i havent achieve my goals yet and am just like heading no way :(  really have to set up my plans,goals and achieve it in coming 2008 .This always keeping in my mind tat Times is not going to wait for anyone and i got to do something before it too late ;P ..So have you guys achieve ya goals yet?? Haha.. ok,am in the rushed continue later

P/S : And remember that time waits for no one. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That’s why it’s called the present.#

Got this message and just would like to share with all of you in the blogs… Take a read on it ..

What is real love? And is there a difference between that and the heart-pounding adrenaline rush I feel when I see…? You know the person I’m talking about. That hot guy playing basketball at the gym… the cute girl who makes eye contact as she passes by… the friend of a friend of a friend… maybe a best friend. It’s that person we keep track of when he or she is in the same room, whose comments and actions we analyze to no end.

There are a few things love isn’t. Love isn’t a feeling. Although real love is often accompanied by strong feelings, love does not equate with the sense of floating on clouds. Unlike the type of love that movies, television, and songs portray, people in love don’t always feel ooey gooey around each other.

A relationship wouldn’t last long on emotions. In fact, knowledge is the basis of a healthy relationship.

Knowing about the other person is key. I used to and sometimes still do "fall in love" with guys that I have never had a conversation with, whether it be a movie star in the latest romantic drama or the guy sitting behind me in a calculus class. I would know his name and his face, and that was the extent of my knowledge of him. If I were to start a relationship with him, who knows where that would lead us!

Knowing about the person’s personality and character are so important. One good test is to list the qualities that attract us to that guy or girl. If the list is long, we know a lot about them and like those things. If the list is short, we either don’t know a lot about them or we know a lot but aren’t attracted to his or her personality.

Another important factor in a relationship is common life goals. If the relationship is going to be long term, we need to be going in the same general direction as the other person. If his dream is to travel as an international businessman and she wants to be a realtor in a single location, conflict could arise. If she wants to live in the countryside with nature and he likes the hustle and bustle of a big city, there are potentially serious problems with the direction of the couple’s lives.

Love isn’t sex. That statement alone goes against a lot of what the entertainment industry feeds us. Whenever two people hook up in pop culture, they have sex. Without showing some of the unpleasant realities of premarital and extramarital sex, it is drawn up to be a wonderful, fun recreational activity.

Sex is created for marriage–a long-lasting commitment between a couple. Outside of marriage, sex can have harsh consequences. Pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, guilt, insecurity, and shame can follow. A relationship based on lust can only last as long as the two are physically close and find each other sexually attractive.

Love is a choice. It’s a commitment. Although feelings will accompany love, and although sex will be a part of marriage, a lasting, healthy relationship cannot be based on these things.

The Bible says that God is love. God, as our designer and creator, made us with needs for love. Do you ever wonder why we constantly seek love from others but never feel completely satisfied? It’s because God designed us for an unconditional love, and we, as people, are flawed.

People, whether friends, family, or your significant other, will invariably let you down at some point. God wants us to find our need for love and acceptance in him first. One person cannot meet all our needs, even if he’s funny or she’s thoughtful.

We were made for God’s love, and God’s love alone can fill that need. Only after experiencing and knowing the unconditional love that God has for us, the love that drove God to send his Son to die for us on earth, can we begin to love others with the same quality of unconditional love.

TRUE LOVE 101: What does it take to be that significant other?

Infatuation

• Sees the other person as perfect
• Wants to get own needs met; selfish
• Spends all time with the other person
• Quickly "falls" for the other person
• Other relationships and friendships deteriorate
• Dependence on the other person causes
• Jealousy frequently
• Lasts for a short period of time
• Distance strains and often puts an end to the relationship
• Quarrels are serious and common
• Quarrels can seriously damage the relationship

Love

• Sees the other person’s flaws and still loves them
• Wants to serve the other person; selfless
• Still spends time with others
• Takes time to build the relationship
• Other relationships and friendships grow stronger
• Trust and understanding results in less severe and less frequent jealousy
• Encompasses a long-term commitment
• Survives and sometimes is strengthened because of distance
• Quarrels are less serious and less often
• Quarrels can strengthen the relationship

Infatuation can be so tempting. But the question is, do I want a lasting, satisfying relationship? If so, infatuation isn’t the answer. Look at your relationships through the grid above. Infatuation isn’t a bad thing, as long as we don’t base a relationship on it.

Perhaps finding real love begins with God, the one who created relationships.

Early sunday morning I’ve received a call and shock me a while an incident happen ungraceful and sad.. Questions keep coming into minds and unanswered.. Humans being to be so decline easily go down hill and caused them become insane sometime.. As a matured person they knowed how to handle their things with their maturity but once come to relationship easily get hurts sometime might injured themself physically..

I’m wondering ,why do couples fight?Why do they argue?Is it true that in a relationship,there must be arguments so that it will stay healthy?Why do people get married and get divorced if anything goes wrong?There’s so many questions running through my head..But left unanswered..Someone told me that,many couples don’t really know what’s the meaning of loyalty and understanding that’s why caused all the arguements and fights.. it that true??

Sometime I felt tired of my life and i felt am gonna blackout anytime soon.I’m so afraid to face the consequences in every single aspects of life..Once you getting older there will be more responsibles coming up,problems might increase as well,etc..etc..right?? To think back am missed the old time so much no worried no nothings miss when i was young live like a happy-go-lucky girl..I always tend to keep things to myself.It’s not that I don’t wanna share but sometimes you just can’t put in words.I know if saying out will make me feel better but i just can’t speak out and am not stubborn just dunno how to express my feelings….Anyway, Hmm.. got lots of things to write in my mind but just couldn’t write it out ..still thinking if someday if i lose my memory and i will just start everything in new again and wouldn’t remember who hurt me etc..

Well gotta get ready to go now. Shall continue later..

Any day we wish; we can discipline ourselves to change it all.

Any day we wish; we can open the book that will open our mind to new knowledge.
Any day we wish; we can start a new activity.

Any day we wish; we can start the process of life change. We can do it immediately, or next week, or next month, or next year.
We can also do nothing. We can pretend rather than perform. And if the idea of having to change ourselves makes us uncomfortable, we can remain as we are. We can choose rest over labor, entertainment over education, delusion over truth, and doubt over confidence. The choices are ours to make. But while we curse the effect, we continue to nourish the cause. As Shakespeare uniquely observed, "The fault is not in the stars, but in ourselves."
We created our circumstances by our past choices. We have both the ability and the responsibility to make better choices beginning today. Those who are in search of the good life do not need more answers or more time to think things over to reach better conclusions. They need the truth. They need the whole truth. And they need nothing but the truth.
We cannot allow our errors in judgment, repeated every day, to lead us down the wrong path. We must keep coming back to those basics that make the biggest difference in how our life works out. And then we must make the very choices that will bring life, happiness and joy into our daily lives.And if I may be so bold to offer my last piece of advice for someone seeking and needing to make changes in their life - If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree. You have the ability to totally transform
every area in your life - and it all begins with your very own power of choice.

P/S: The greatest regrets in our lives are the risks we did not take. If you think something will make you happy, go for it. Remember that you pass this way only once!And remember that time waits for no one. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That’s why it’s called the present.

Am getting not understand What is love??Issit Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness??Or maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it…People said Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale… Love loves; this is its nature.Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end.To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness.See… am getting very blur and miserable..Love doesn’t make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile.. Am afraid to love anymore .. Last time my beloved one was staying inside my heart but now leave with emptyness.Love is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever.Issit Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it…It really is worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk everything, you risk even more..Is this call love??